I was asked to start this thread and I will because I saw so much of it in this county. For the most part, it is very difficult for a male to get a fair shake in matters of child support and child custody. Our judges and commissioners favor women no matter what is best for the child. There are not only crappy fathers in this world, but there are lots of crappy mothers.
Anyway, the thread is started and now those who want to comment can do so.
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That maybe true, but if you have had to deal with CPS as a falsely accused parent, Whoa, let me tell you, what a seriously F’d up system……… I would not wish it on my worst enemy, not even “R”…………That’s a fact
I totally agree with you. I wrote on the old blog about an experience I had a TDM I was a part of for DCS. Those are conducted to help make a determination of whether a child will go back to the parents or not. I was a sexual assault counselor at the time and would be called when sexual assault was an issue.
During the last one I attended, I seriously wanted to reach over slap the crap out of the social workers. They had screwed up and they knew it. They were being used by an alcoholic mother and were damned determined to find something, anything, to use against the father to make up for their screw up. The poor little six-year-old girl was caught in the middle. I was never more disgusted with county employees than I was that day. It took every ounce of self-control I had not to hand the father an iePolitics business card and ask him to contact me. I have wondered many times what happened in that case.
I have had nothing but contempt for DCS/CPS every since. There were two supervisors present and both knew the county had screwed up big time but they were more interested in protecting their asshole employees than the child.
Before I begin, I will do everything I can to protect the identity of my child. She is my gift from God. She is a sweet, innocent child who has been exploited those who were supposed to protect her. I will attempt to prevent furthr harm to her by having her identity revealed.
I intend to journal my exposure to a corrupt system in a series of posts that are short and easy to read.
I have not lied, nor do I ever intend to lie. I will continue to pursue justice for my child within the rules of what has become known as a game. I will not be offended were anyone to attempt to catch me in a lie. If you believe I am lying, please feel free to attempt to catch me. I will not be offended.
When I am finished, I am sure than none of you will want to walk in my shoes. Sadly, I am one of many desperate parents whose child and me were victimized by a corrupt system.
Good Night,
R
I know a detective in Victorville who spend a great deal of time putting out fires that CPS created from time to time. Had some good experiences with CPS too.
But you damn sure have to pay attention to CPS. It’s a crap shoot indeed.
My ex was almost almost 42 when she delivered our last child. My ex had to endure a problem pregnancy. At one time we had to rush to hospital. We feared she had lost our baby. God was with her. Then a nurse called my wife telling her that her amniocentesis returned positive for Down Syndrome. I was devastated listening to the conversation. Then the nurse realized she had her facts wrong. My gift from God was born caesarian section. She was literally the most beautiful baby in the nursery. Nurses from other areas of the hospital would come to the nursery to look at her. Thank God, she was a perfectly healthy baby. I literally could not stop holding her. I thanked God for giving her to us.
Soon after my baby was born, my ex began exhibiting bizarre behavior. I won’t go into to much detail, but she took out her anger, which was probably symptomatic of depression, on my baby. In front of her she would blame all of her problems on her. My ex would stay up until all hours of the night playing games on our computer. She would spend hours popping little balloons that descended from the top of the monitor. Many mornings she would be found at 4:00 am sitting in front of her computer playing games. I should have realized then that she was probably doing meth. My ex has always has had a severe gambling problem, and I later found out that she was online gambling.
As my daughter grew into an infant, my wife would blame her anger on her. By then we were sleeping in separate bedrooms. My daughter would sleep with me, mostly out of fear for her safety. By that time I had secured a job as a certificated high school teacher. I would get up at five am, get my son up for school, make breakfast for him while my ex remained in bed due to exhaustion from all night online gaming, and take my son to school, and then go to work. I did this in chronic pain due to numerous orthopedic surgeries I have had. Later I asked my daughter what she did after she awoke. She said she sat in front of our TV watching cartoons while her mommy slept.
One day I can home from work at about 10:00 am due to a bout with flu. When I arrived home I found my ex parked in front of the computer while my daughter was wandering around our home wearing the same diaper I had put on her the night before.
My ex’s behavior continued to deteriorate. One day I arrived home from work. My ex was online gaming. I asked her where our baby was. She replied, “Dead I hope.” My daughter was about three at that time. Not too long after I came home from work to find my daughter crying on the living room floor while my ex was online gaming. I asked her why she was crying. She told me that her mommy had hit her with a belt. I asked my ex to explain. She said she had beaten our daughter with a belt all day because she would not stop pulling her puppy’s tail. Around the same time, my ex threatened to kill my daughter because she clogged up our upstairs toilet. Of course my wife was online gaming at that time instead of parenting our daughter.
When my daughter was about three, she was in my upstairs bedroom with me. My wife barged into my bedroom in a rage. She screamed that our daughter was making her life miserable and the she wished that she had aborted her.
At that time I acknowledged that my ex was suffering from severe mental illness. I asked her to seek psychiatric treatment. I told her that I would go to treatment with her in order to help improve her mental health. She insisted there was nothing wrong with her, that it was me who was crazy.
My ex had threatened to bash my head in with a baseball bat, which was a classic terrorist threat. No one wants the mother of his children to go to jail, and neither did I. A couple years later she told me how lucky I was to believe alive because she had planned to murder me. On another occasion she told me that she had planned to sabotage my car’s breaks so that I would crash and die going down Lone Pine Canyon Road. There was no doubt that she was suffering from severe mental illness.
Around November of 2005 she began threatening that at the end of the school year she had planned to kick me out of the house and take me for everything I had. I have to endure her constant verbal abuse virtually every single day.
Let’s jump ahead to about 2007, which was when her best friend died of what was termed sleep apnea. However, she was a prescription drug addict. She once tried to get my ex to give her my prescription meds. I admonished my ex to never give away my prescription meds, although my ex used to take them.
My ex’s best friend used to be a former tweaker, and freely admitted it. I had always suspected that she was still tweaking. My ex’s bouts with delusion become more frequent and acute. She accused me of killing her best best friend. I asked her how she thought I murdered her best friend. In complete seriousness, she told me that I had sent negative energy through the atmosphere causing her best friend to die.
I had kept a journal of all of my ex’s threats, her admitting to beating my daughter with a belt, and her other bizarre symptoms. I was completely confused about what I should do. So I called a very good friend who’s a lawyer. He suggested that I call my ex’s sister to see if she would help her. He said that if her sister refused to help her, then I was left with no option but to notify SBSO.
As I predicted, her sister refused to help. So I called SBSO. It was my initiation to SBSO’s predilection for gross dereliction of duty, incompetence, and malfeasance. I had foolishly believed that based upon the evidence that I had given to the deputy that my ex was going to jail. Instead, then Deputy Burroughs kissed off the numerous felonies. She had asked me what I wanted her to do. Obviously she did not know her job if she need me to tell her how to resolve her call. Moreover, what I might have wanted to do was not an element of any crime my ex had committed. Worse, she included in her report that her opinion that I had coached my daughter to lie, which was a blatant lie. Apparently she had not learned that her opinions should never be included in her criminal reports. She was obviously searching for an excuse to kiss off serious felonies. Exacerbating her incompetence, later in her report she wrote that she had interviewed my wife about the statements, which were evidence of crimes committed. My ex did not deny the content of the statements, which was tantamount to an admission of guilt. Rather she denied the context of the statements. How in God’s name can anyone take out of context statements about wishing she had aborted my daughter, wishing my daughter had died, and threatening to bash my head in with a baseball bat? Deputy Burroughs, who should have protected my daughter, actually caused her to suffer additional abuse, two counts of which were nothing short of torture.
I’ll continue tomorrow.
Good night,
R
Going back a few years when my daughter was about two, we took a trip to Ontario Mills. On the way, with my son and daughter in the car, my ex repeatedly used the “F” word in front of them. I begged her to stop. She refused.
When we arrived at Ontario Mills, my ex wanted to physically fight a woman over a parking stall. I told my ex that there were a million other stalls. I told her to just find another place to park.
We had lunch at the fish market there. Our waitress begged our forgiveness. She said they were short waitresses, so it might take a little longer for her to serve us. I told her there was no problem. Within minutes my ex became angered because she felt she had to wait too long for her soda. I reminded her that our waitress have to service a lot of tables, and she was trying to keep up. My wife had no empathy for her. She rudely demanded her soda immediately.
Later we saw a James Bond movie There were a few kids acting like kids sitting in front of us. Sure they were rude, but aren’t most teenagers? My ex didn’t care. She wanted to start a fight with them.
Fast forward to 2007. I had to drop my daughter off at my ex’s house at about 10:00 am. When I arrived, three young males in their early 20′s exited her home. They were laughing and gigging. It was obvious to me what my ex, who was about 45 at that time, was doing with three young males who had spent the night at her house. Arising more suspicion, she had gone out of her way to assure me that she had not had sex with any of them. But their laughter and giggles indicated to me that she wasn’t being truthful.
About a year later my ex did mange to get her clocked cleaned at a local bar. She walked up to a woman who had been sitting with her boyfriend. She looked at him and then her and said to her that she could do better. She cleaned my ex’s clock. Later that night, sometime after midnight, she returned home with her girlfriend and three young men that they had picked up at the bar. It must have been another exciting night for three young men. Demonstrating a lack of concern for my daughter, she was asleep in her mother’s bed.
After we separated she dated and quickly fell in love with a truck driver. A couple years later my ex’s friend told me that me ex had admitted to her that her truck driver boyfriend was a tweaker. I have no friends who are tweakers. I don’t hang around with tweakers. Is it reasonable to believe that she was in love with a tweaker and not tweaking herself?
As you’re undoubtedly aware by now, I am an orthopedic nightmare. My wife has battered me three times, each one kissed off by SBSO. In 2008 she intentionally thrust her fists into my surgically repaired shoulders causing traumatic injury, which was classic 273.5. Cheeseman being Cheeseman kissed it off.
It was in 2008 that a reformed meth addict went to my wife’s home to fix her heater. A couple years later I ran across this guy. He told me that while he was fixing her heater it was obvious to him that she was 11550 meth. He signed a declaration under penalty of perjury attesting that he had witnessed my ex under the influence of meth.
In was in 2008 that my ex yanked my then five year old daughter off the floor by her hair, yanked her to the tips of her toes, bent her backwards so that her face was facing the ceiling, and beat her. She repeated this identical act a second time. There were two witnesses to these felonies: my ex’s former friend and her son. My wife’s ex friend submitted a declaration signed under penalty of perjury that she had witnessed this vicious abuse. She feared that my wife was going to break my daughter’s back. None of this abuse would have occurred if then Deputy Burroughs had not been derelict. And it is was 2008 that my ex had to have extensive dental work because, as she described it, her teeth were rotting out of her head.
In October of 2010, a very squared away SBSO deputy interviewed my daughter. She told him about the torture she had suffered and additional abuse she had suffered at the hands of her mother.
Not a single syllable of this is a lie. I will stand behind every last word.
There’s more to follow.
Good Night,
R
R, take a Prozac dude! You sound like you are in a coffesion. NOT ON THIS VENUE PLEASE.
My brother once told me that my ex suffers mental illness. Specifically, he told me that she suffers borderline personality disorder. For the sake of veracity, my brother has either prosecuted or defended for about 35 years. Fewer than 100 lawyers in California have his trail experience. He has prosecuted and represented defendants charged with just about every crime imaginable, including many death penalty cases. He probably knows more about mental illness than most practicing psychologists.
I had no idea what borderline personality disorder was. A friend of mine gave me a book entitled, “Stop Walking on Eggshells”, which is about borderline personality disorder. As I was reading it I felt as though I was reading a profile of my ex’s life. And believe me, I could consume pages of this blog detailing her bizarre behavior.
The reality is I did not want her arrested. But what a victim desires is never an element of any crime. In fact it can be a crime under CPC 153 for anyone to enter into an agreement with another to conceal a crime, which is why I thought it very odd that Burroughs (now VV Cheeseman) would ask me what I wanted done with her call. I got the impression from her that she thought I ought to bargain with my ex to make to make her crimes go away, hence according Cheeseman to kiss of serious felonies, which she in fact did. If my intuition was correct, she would have been good for principal in CPC 153. For instance, were I to have bargained with my ex that I would conceal crimes she had committed in exchange for her seeking psychiatric treatment, I might have been good for CPC 153. However, for the sake of my kids I did want her to seek help. She refused my requests with the same refrain every single time: there was nothing wrong with her. I was the one who was crazy.
In about 2007 or 08, a Loma Linda pediatric neurologist told me, upon hearing of my ex’s symptoms including fighting and her inability to hold empathy for others, told me that her symptoms were consistent with schizophrenia. A prominent Newport Beach psychiatrist has told me on two occasions that she suffers from borderline personality disorder. The first time he told it to me he also told me that she is dangerous. The second time he told me that she’s borderline, he first asked me if she’s a good liar. I replied that she’s the best there is. He replied that she’s classic borderline. He also told me that it’s the most difficult personality disorder to treat. BTW, this same psychiatrist told me that I suffer no mental or behavioral problems. However, borderline patients’ bizarre and aggressive behavior can cause those around them to suffer stress and anxiety because they never know what a borderline patient might do or say from moment-to-moment.
Drug abuse is, which is risky behavior, is a common borderline symptom as is engaging in risky sexual behavior. Excessive gambling is another classic borderline symptom. My ex has a severe gamblig addiction.
As is so often true, one learns a lot about whom has married after entering into the contract. Me ex used to work as a civilian in an OC law enforcement agency. I found out that my ex used to use cocaine while working for that agency, even using it while working, which is extremely risky behavior. She also told me that she had done meth with her girlfriend’s boyfriend. After we were married about 12 years, she told me she had done meth with a couple of her friends while I was asleep.
All of her friends seem to be or were drug abusers. She can’t keep a relationship to save her life. The love of her life, the tweaking truck driver, dumped her due to her behavior. She went back to her first boyfriend, who as a young adult was busted by Irvine PD for selling drugs. He dumped her a second time. In about 2008 my ex allowed a very young friend of hers to bring marijuana around my then 5 year-old daughter.
My wife used to love to tell me that she was going to make my life miserable. Why anyone would want to exist to make another miserable is a concept that I’ll never understand.
This will all make more sense when I get to our 730 evaluation.
Believe me, I know what my faults are. However my personal physician, who has treated me for about 10 years, concurred with the Newport Beach psychiatrist: I suffer no mental or behavioral problems.
No one has ever given me a damned thing in my life. I have had to earn everything I have, which isn’t much now that her enablers, Proulx and Dr. Kristina Lynne Roberts of Victorville, whom I refer to as Dr. ‘net, have assisted her in making my life miserable.
I have had to work my way to college and grad school. I graduated number one overall from my academy class. The point is that I have always been motivated and willing to work hard to achieve my goals. And a borderline patient can destroy them in a New York second. Of course, her enablers, Proulx and Roberts, greatly assisted her with accomplishing her desire to make my life miserable.
I was a cop for nigh on twenty years. I have made a lot of arrests. In 1987 I was cop of the year. I have been assigned to three major riots. In spite of my aggressive law enforcement disposition, I had and still have a very calm demeanor for which I was routinely complimented. I understood the concept of deescalation. Thank God, I have never had to use deadly force. I have never had to strike anyone with my baton. I have been in maybe a dozen scuffles. I have had to use pepper spray once. I was accused of excessive use of force only once. I was completely exonerated, and the suspect took a plea.
The most powerful equipment we all have in common is our brains. And I always used mine when I was 10-8. I used to love to respond to crimes in progress, which is excitement for which cops live. However, as soon as I received calls, my brain was working. Based upon information I had received from dispatch, I would anticipate what I had before I arrived on scene. This allowed me to formulate a plan to resolve calls prior to my arrival. I have had suspects threaten to kick my ass, and at least one huge Hell’s Angel easily could have. But because of thinking of options, I was nearly always able to get suspects to go along with the program. I have even had suspects thank me while I was taking them to jail for treating them with dignity and respect. We’re all God’s children, and even suspects I didn’t like deserved to be treated fairly. However, if they insisted upon other courses of actions, then I responded to what they thought they needed to do. But I much preferred using equanimity, reason, and logic to get suspects into the back of my unit as opposed to force. But if it took force, it was their ideas, not mine.
I am well aware of the concept of control. When a cop arrives at calls, s/he has to immediately establish control. An officer’s demeanor contributes to her/his ability to establish control. Command presence is a crucial concept. Therefore, I would immediately establish control and convey to all parties involved that I was in control and I would not be relinquishing it. If this concept can be conveyed to all parties and they understand it, use of force is far less likely. In fact, use of force implicates a lack of control.
More to follow.
R
If you have ever had to do a CPSFU 95% of them are BS either parents trying to get the other in trouble or a teacher who doesn’t believe in corporal punishment or any of the like. It’s anonymous and flawed big time. But I guess for every 100 that you do the one that is legit is worth the 99 that werent.
In March 2008 me ex called me to tell me that her friend, who was the same friend who had witnessed my ex torture my child, and told me that her friend had recently been arrested for CPC 273a Child Endangerment. To make it easier to follow this story, I assign my ex’s friend the pseudonym of Jane. Jane’s six-year-old child was taken into custody of CPS. Jane, as you probably have guessed by now, was a drug abuser. She virtually lived with my ex for about four mounts. However, Jane didn’t commit the crime. It was but another SBSO fiasco.
My ex told me that she had agreed to babysit for Jane. My ex dropped off Jane’s son at 8:00 pm in at his grandparent’s home in Wrightwood and drove away. The son entered an empty home. He ran back outside, but my ex had driven away. The kid dialed 911 and deputies responded. Deputies took Jane to jail for child endangerment, a crime she had not committed.
When my ex told me this story I told her that she had no idea how lucky she was that she hadn’t been arrested. She had care of the child and dropped him off without walking in to the door to assure an adult was present to receive him.
If this appears incredulous, in a later court appearance while in front of a fill-in commissioner named Glickstein, I believe, my ex admitted in court and on record that she had committed all requisite elements of child endangerment. I sat in amazement at what I had heard my ex admit. When she finished, I told the paragon of intellectualism sitting on the bench that my ex had just admitted to a felony. She looked at me for a few seconds as though thoroughly confused and, after regaining her composure, she told me that I had no idea what I was talking about. If she only knew how many people I have taken to jail for this crime. But as a retired cop friend of mine likes to say, Glickstein was so dumb she was happy.
But it gets even better. My ex submitted a declaration signed under penalty of perjury in which she again admitted to committing all requisite elements of child endangerment. This time is was in front of the other paragon of intelligence known as Proulx. Because Proulx is really not that bright or because he acts as my ex’s de facto attorney, he did not care that my ex admitted to committing all requisite elements of child endangerment. In essence, my ex admitted to committing a felony, and not a damned thing happened to her.
More to follow.
R
R,
A dozen “scuffles”, use of pepper spray once, and never having to use your stick in your entire career sums up your mentality of law enforcement. Unfornately, some deputies do more in one year than you did in your entire career as it comes to force issues. I contend that this is not because you were some superior thinker, but because you worked in a different environment than many deputies do. You must remember that there are always occasions that no matter how one cop responds, their actions are almost always dictated by the suspect’s. So with that said, SBSO is not a bunch of derilicts like you assume, but just a different breed than you raised in different environments. Must be nice to rarely have to deal with violent gangsters that will kill you at the first chance they get. Yes, orange county must be nice in your old turf.
James,
How would you explain arresting an innocent person for 273a while allowing the actual suspect escape justice? Remember, James, me ex admitted to committing all elements of 273a in open court and on record, and she has submitted a sworn declaration signed under penalty of perjury that she did in fact endanger Jane’s son while she had agreed to care for him. James these are facts that can easily be proved.
James, how would you account for a deputy putting her wholly unsupported opinion in her police report? How would you account for her allowing a serial child abuser to escape justice?
James, I have had to interact with many serious bad guys. Having to use force implicates a lack of control. Not having to use force implicates the officer has seized control and retained it. There might be a better way of establishing control, but out-thinking bad guys has always worked for me. However, there were times I have had to point my handgun and shotgun at suspects in order to gain control. A shotgun does have a magical ability to acquire control. I am sure you have had success using your method. I remember being taught in academy that answering a bad’s guys question upon contact is his tactic of trying to gain control. Therefore, the response is to reply to a bad guy’s question with one of my own.
I’ve arrested a Hell’s Angel who was 10-32 for five serious felony warrants out of your jurisdiction. Upon contact, he immediately tried to establish control. He had a loaded .22 Mag Derringer and would have killed me if I hadn’t immediately established control. He was covered in tats. It was about 0200. He turned his side to me and moved his hand away from me. He immediately saw me grab my gun and assume a tactical position. He thought his dying was not what he wanted to do. He slowly turned to face me while exposing both palms. He went to jail and I went home. And that’s the desired outcome. You probably know this Angel. Regardless of call, establishing immediate control is what it’s all about.
Another Hell’s Angel told me he was going to kick my ass. If I hadn’t established control, he probably would have. He was at least 6-6, 300+ lbs. Had I given him the impression that I wasn’t in control, he’d cleaned my clock.
The irony about dealing with suspects who have done state time is that they know cops do not lose. They seem to have learned, probably through experience, that cops have a lot of buddies who will respond to assure that bad guys go to jail. So it seems as though they know it’s futile to resist. Drunk kids are another story entirely. The synergistic effect of testosterone & alcohol seems to preclude their thinking abilities. But even with such kids, for the most part I have been able to convey that it’s better to go directly to jail instead of detouring to a local hospital prior to booking. That’s usually when they seemed to have gotten it.
Finally, I will concede that I nearly always had many, many buddies 10-8 all around me. A simple radio call of a 960 X-ray, and God only knows how many would have dropped what they were doing and responded Code 3. Sergeants, investigators, undercover narcotic officers, administrators, anyone with badge and gun could’ve been expected to respond. The big boss’s policy was that his cops didn’t get hurt. Moreover, we had Red Channel, which meant that were a cop to access Red Channel and request 960 X-ray, cops for any allied agency in the area would respond. That was an enviable advantage that I acknowledge SBSO deputies lack. I sure as hell hope you guys are able to develop your own form of Red Channel with links to CHP & Fish and Game. When a cop is at risk of losing control, regardless of agency, all uniforms look the same.
Most OC bad guys did seem to know that the county was connected by radio, and were it necessary they knew that within seconds more cops than they ever wanted to see would be 10-97. And that is an enviable advantage. I can only pray that SBSO acquires such an advantage. Because regardless of differences among us, cops must be able to expect other cops to come to their aid should their lives become endangered. Bad guys have to know that they cannot win, that they will be going to jail. How they get their is their choice.
James, I am an orthopedic nightmare. I have had seven surgeries. Your wife could kick my ass. With that established, while I have no idea who Anonymous is, if he really is a cop and were I to know who he is and were I to see him in life-threatening danger, I’d stop and risk another surgery to save his life. But then again, I’d do it for any cop whose life might be in danger. All cops have to roll that way regardless of differences.
Take care,
R
I had never wanted to endure the indignity of divorcing in open court. Dirty laundry should never aired in public. Unfortunately, under California’s family law, what I wanted was immaterial. My ex was able to force our divorce into open court for public exposure. I would have rather have resolved our divorce in an attorney’s office as my brother has suggested.
It was obvious that my ex was in it for money. She hadn’t worked in years and did not want to work. She was what my brother refers to as an “Oprah victim”. She made herself into a victim and exploited every advantage available to her. A common refrain of an Oprah victim is proclivity for accusing their husbands of being control freaks. She used to routinely call me a control freak, which was one of the more benign names she called me, often in front of our children. After God knows how many times she accused me of being a control freak, I finally asked her to give me just one example of my trying to control her. She looked at me dumbfounded for more than a few seconds and was unable to respond.
The fact is she refused to take care of her health, she refused to stop smoking, she refused to stop using the “F” word around our kids, she refused to stop associating with drug addicts (especially tweakers), she refused to stop squandering money on her addiction to casino gaming, she refused to stop online gaming on the computer until all hours of the morning, she refused to attend most of my son’s soccer games, and among her numerous other refusals she refused to accompany my son and me on fishing trips that my son loved. The fact of the matter is that she refused to partake in anything anyone else wanted, yet she demanded that others do what she wanted. The concept is projection: she was projecting to me the personality flaws that plagued her. No one could have ever had a prayer of controlling my ex.
My ex initiated divorce proceedings with a lawyer. She had threatened me many times with taking me for everything I owned and making my life miserable. She was determined to achieving goal. I was naïve by not having a lawyer. I really believed that my ex would come to realize that our divorce could have been resolved between us without the necessity of transferring money we could have used for our kids’ children’s college funds to lawyers who love to exploit marital discord.
After our divorce was initiated, my brother told me that I had to move our divorce out of Victorville court due its ecumenical reputation for skewed justice. He told me that he had heard of Proulx, but he had no direct experience of him. He told me that he knew others who knew him, and the intel on him was that he as a nice guy but not all that bright.
Most of us here have worked for governmental agencies for most of our lives. We know the routine. Incompetents weasel themselves into positions from which they’re able to extract favors. The recent post about SBSO promotions exposed this fact. There is no doubt in my mind that Proulx was handed his position as commissioner as a result of his ability to extract a favor.
Our divorce was finalized in September 2008. My ex did what no rational mother ever would ever consider: she virtually abandoned her minor children and moved in with her mother some 130 miles away. I had 71% custody of both minor children. Not only was I working full-time in chronic pain, I had to care for two minor children. I fed them breakfast. I took them to school. I took them to all of their sporting events and school activities. I cooked dinner for them every night (I learned to become a damned good cook!). I took care of my daughter when she contracted MRSA. Due to exhaustion and chronic pain, I was lucky to get a few hours’ sleep a night.
My ex refused to respond to see her daughter, who was suffering from a potentially life-threatening infection. In fact, my ex had once gone 21 days without having any contact with her minor children. I had to call her and beg her to call her own child.
One seemingly innocuous provision of our divorce order of which I was unaware was that our minor children could not be moved from Wrightwood without the court’s permission. I had no idea how severely this provision would virtually destroy my daughter and me.
It was around this time that my ex had committed five counts of CPC 487, Grand Theft Under False Pretenses. I had substantial proof of these felonies including cancelled checks that she had deposited into her bank account. I had called my brother for advice. He confirmed the five counts of CPC 487. I called SBSO. You know the response I received: it was a civil problem. God only knows how many felonies my ex committed with SBSO extending immunity to her. I did sue her in small claims count and won a judgment against her.
My ex moved away in February of 2009. Immediately thereafter my daughter began displaying symptoms of separation anxiety. Many nights I held her while she cried for her mommy. She would cry for her mommy while she was in her classroom. I took her to her pediatrician. Her pediatrician had recommended that I take her to a child psychologist for help. I arranged for my daughter to see a child psychologist, I drove her to all of her appointments, and I assumed responsibility for all costs.
More to follow, and it gets worse. If this blog is primarily dedicated to corruption, you’ll read about it.
R
In November of 2009 I suffered my fifth shoulder injury that required surgery to repair. My personal physician told me that I should consider permanent retirement in order to concentrate on pain management. However, I wasn’t sure what I wanted. However, as the pain became progressively worse, I was calling in sick at least a day a week. Three days of the other four I was in terrible pain. Finally, in December I asked my physician to prescribe an MRI and write a retirement letter for me.
I had called my district’s deputy superintendent and apprised him of my medical condition. We talked at least twice at great length about my options, what was best for students, and what was best for the district. He concurred that due to my chronic pain it was making in nearly impossible for me to continue in my profession. He suggested I retire. Moreover I have email correspondence in which he wrote that retirement was the best option for students, the district, and me.
My personal physician, my spinal surgeon, and my shoulder surgeon have all told me that due to my numerous orthopedic injuries that I had to move from Wrightwood. Cold weather exacerbates pain, and harsh living conditions places my body at greater risk of injury. God only knows how many times I have slipped on ice and have nearly slipped on ice. Further, all three of my aforementioned physicians have strictly forbidden me from shoveling snow.
I decided to move back to Orange County where weather is more amenable to my numerous orthopedic injuries. However, before I could move, I had to get the court’s permission to move my kids from Wrightwood. I have a buddy who is a retired deputy district attorney. He told me I should just move and disregard the court order. He told me no DA’s office would ever file anything against me for moving due to medical necessity and the fact that my ex had already moved. But I am as honest as the day is long, so I followed the court order and petitioned the court for permission to move my kids from Wrightwood.
Initially my ex told me that she would force the kids to remain in Wrightwood unless I allowed her to have custody of our daughter. She was actually willing to separate biological siblings for her benefit. Again, consistent with borderline personality disorder, this was but another expression of her manipulative behavior. She had run out on her kids, now she was trying to virtually extort me into allowing her to have custody of the very child she had abandoned. I told her that I would never agree to such an extortion attempt.
Later, on three separate occasions, I told my ex that I was still planning on moving with our kids back to Orange County. I should have realized that she was scheming a plan because she said she had changed her mind. She told me that she thought our moving to Orange County was a good idea. She told me that she was not going to contest my request. But my ex is extremely manipulative, which is consistent with borderline personality disorder.
I had my fifth shoulder surgery in January of 2010. It was severe. My surgeon had to hammer five pins into my left shoulder in order to repair damage. As anyone who has had shoulder surgery knows, the pain was excruciating.
Our court date was in March of 2010. I had filed a petition to modify the court’s order preventing my moving from Wrightwood. I attached to my petition copies of my physician’s letter that explained why I had to retire, a copy of my physician’s letter explaining why it was medically imperative that I move from Wrightwood, and copies of email correspondence between my deputy superintendent and me in which he concurred with my decision to retire.
I will always own up to my screw-ups, and I screwed up big time. I had assumed that it was going to be a perfunctory process. Proulx did acknowledge the letters from my personal physician. He also acknowledged the emails between my deputy superintendent and me that indicated that I retired from the district due to medical necessity. Proulx acknowledged that I had voluntarily retired due to medical necessity. Then he asked my ex if she had any objections to my moving our kids from Wrightwood. Very meekly and quietly she told Proulx that she did not want the kids to move from Wrightwood even though the kids would be a lot closer to her. And let’s not forget that she had run out on them over a year earlier. I should have known that she had a manipulative scheme.
Proulx denied my request. He did say that if we acquiesced to a California Evidence Code 730 custody evaluation he might change his mind. I was left with no option but to agree with his scheme. He then recommended Dr. Kristina Roberts of Victorville to perform the evaluation. He told us she was new and would be able to perform the evaluation. Another one of my screw-ups was agreeing to allow Roberts to do anything including shine my shoes. Still another one of my screw-ups was not hiring a lawyer.
Roberts introduced me to the scheme of setting up a pro per litigant. And the only reason one would set up another is because the one setting up the other is lying. Otherwise there would be no need to set up a pro per litigant.
It get’s worse. I guarantee it.
R
Courts have created ancillary businesses. The ostensible primary objective of these businesses is to rehabilitate defendants accused of crimes. However, the real intention of these businesses is to insulate judges from their decisions. For instance, assume a child abuser is ordered to attend a child abuse course and passes. Should the defendant commit another crime of child abuse, a sentencing judge would be able to defend her/his lenient sentence based upon the recommendation of the course providers. In essence, judges need another to whom they can shift blame should they decide poorly.
Nearly all of these courses have poor efficacy. I believe AA’s efficacy is about 17%. That means 83% of those completing an AA course will continue to drink. People only stop drinking only when they decide to stop. Many years ago I read a program evaluation of DARE. It doesn’t work. In essence, court ordered courses are a waste of money. But they do provide judges with scapegoats for their decisions should they turn out wrong.
There is big money in these courses. Defendants have no option other than paying for them. Therefore, course providers make big money off hapless defendants who are without options.
730 evaluations are in the same vein. These evaluations provide a source of income for evaluators who would otherwise be able to earn a legitimate income. Family law litigants have no option but to fund these evaluations of nebulous value. And they provide commissioners with a patsy should they their judgments turn out to be wrong. Of course commissioners would never assume responsibility for awarding an abused child to her abuser. It wasn’t the commissioner’s fault. It’s the evaluator’s fault for submitting a faulty evaluation. Moreover, I have read research that indicates that more than half of 730 evaluations are faulty.
I have taken three law enforcement psychological exams. I have passed every one with flying colors. I wasn’t exactly sure what a 730 evaluation entailed, but I was certain that I would prevail. That was another serious screw-up I committed.
My impression of Kristina Lynne Roberts was that she was timid and unsure of herself. At the time of my 730 evaluation, she had been performing them for less than two years. I have no idea how many she had perform prior to mine.
Part of 730 evaluations is to take a modified MMPI, which I had taken a few times before and have always passed. There was another computerized test I had to complete. I had talked to her for maybe 15 minutes at most before I began computerized testing. It was obvious to me that the computerized tests were nothing more than a means to justify her fees. She sat in her office doing God’s knows what while I took these tests. When I finished, I left.
A few weeks later I had to return to Roberts’ office with my kids. She wanted to observe how I interacted with my kids. This meeting lasted maybe 15 minutes. I have no idea what in God’s name she could have learned watching my kids and I together. However, her behavior and demeanor reinforced my previous opinion of her. She appeared to be going through motions in order to justify extracting money from me.
The third and final meeting was to observe my ex and I interact. But first she wanted to go over documents she had collected. One was a truancy letter from my son’s school indicating that he had been truant for five days. Roberts tried to pin my son’s truancy on me.
I told Roberts that the document to which she was referring was factually incorrect. My son was never truant. He was home ill from school with me. I was home as well recuperating from surgery I had had in January of that year. Roberts said that my son being home with me had no bearing on the letter. She had to rely upon the school district’s letter. Worse, she tried to blame me for my son’s alleged truancy. She refused to allow me to submit a letter explaining the truancy letter. She said that she did not want to turn her report into a he-said-she-said report. I knew then that she had an ulterior motive.
The fact is that when I was teaching I would always clear my son’s absences with our attendance clerk. I had no idea that when my ex moved away she had given the school her home address and phone number. As per the school’s policy, the attendance clerk attempted to verify my son’s absences by calling my ex because her phone number was on file. I had no idea that the school had attempted to verify my son’s absences with my ex. No one ever called me to verify my son’s absences. Yet according to Roberts, it was my fault that my son had received a truancy letter that had been mailed to my ex’s address. Worse, she refused to allow me to submit a letter of explanation.
Roberts was obviously offended that I had revealed to her that what she wanted to believe was factual was in fact not. She became rude and sullen. She began acting like a bully. I asked her how long the meeting was going to last. She rudely asked if I had something more important than completing her inquisition. I politely informed her that there was a nationally televised bicycle race occurring that very day in which athletes were going to ride through Wrightwood. I told her that roads surrounding Wrightwood were going to be closed, and I wouldn’t be able to pick my kids up from school if the meeting lasted much beyond 11:00 am. She became even more indignant, apparently because I had the audacity to suggest to her that my picking up my kids from school, especially my then eight-year-old daughter, was extremely important. She glared at me with piercing eyes and in a raised voiced told me that our meeting was over. I politely got up and left. Because she cancelled the meeting, she eliminated a crucial component of her evaluation, which was a joint meeting between my wife and I. Her reckless disregard for professional and ethical standards –assuring all components of her evaluation were not met- she was forced to cover for her misconduct.
During all three meetings, I might have talked with Roberts for maybe an hour.
At no time did I ever raise my voice with her. And no time was I rude with her. Moreover, she admitted these facts in the novel fraught with lies that she had submitted to the court.
In order to protect her unethical conduct, Roberts was forced to set me up, which means she had to lie.
It wasn’t until much later that I had learned that Roberts earned an online Ph.D. from an institution that was not accredited by the American Psychological Association. In essence, she bought a degree from a diploma mill.
Next I’ll reveal the horrendous consequences of being set up by an unethical child custody evaluator.
R
So here’s a quote from the blowgard:
“Raisuli on March 14, 2012 at 8:06 PM said:
In March 2008 me ex called me to tell me that her friend, who was the same friend who had witnessed my ex torture my child, and told me that her friend had recently been arrested for CPC 273a Child Endangerment. To make it easier to follow this story, I assign my ex’s friend the pseudonym of Jane. Jane’s six-year-old child was taken into custody of CPS. Jane, as you probably have guessed by now, was a drug abuser. She virtually lived with my ex for about four mounts. However, Jane didn’t commit the crime. It was but another SBSO fiasco.
My ex told me that she had agreed to babysit for Jane. My ex dropped off Jane’s son at 8:00 pm in at his grandparent’s home in Wrightwood and drove away. The son entered an empty home. He ran back outside, but my ex had driven away. The kid dialed 911 and deputies responded. Deputies took Jane to jail for child endangerment, a crime she had not committed. ”
How incredibly interesting..
Here’s why: if someone were enterprising enough to look at the history in March ’08 for the station that covers Wrightwood (public info), and were to look at the arrests for that time period, there are NO arrests that fit the above story. Nothing even close. If someone had the time, you see, they could easily comfirm this information.
Care to ‘splain, Lucy?
R
“Deputy Burroughs, who should have protected my daughter, actually caused her to suffer additional abuse, two counts of which were nothing short of torture. ”
This I find very offensive. You as the PARENT and the Protector of your child is the cause. You have suffered no more or less than a lot of females in the same situation.
It is and was most definitely YOUR responsibility to protect your children. You are a fool to think others do not see this. What the heck is more important airing your “dirty laundry” or PROTECTING your children.
Man up Jackass….. Protect and raise your children…..
Hi Lucy,
I was told that Jane was arrested. In lieu of prosecution, Jane had to agree to enroll in parenting courses and drug screening. Jane had a choice to make: give up partying and get her kid back or continue with her lifestyle. She decided she wanted to remain a parent. I have given her credit for cleaning up her act. She transformed herself into a different person. However, it did take her about four months to get her kid back.
I have no idea why there is no record of her arrest. However, I do have the a copy of my ex’s signed declaration sworn under penalty of perjury i which she admitted to committing all requisite elements of child abuse.
Take care,
R
imaginethat,
You’re assuming that I did not expend every effort to protect my child. That is an incorrect assumption. I had begged my wife to seek psychiatric help. Instrumental to protecting her was my requesting help from SBSO. Burroughs’ job was to investigate crimes my ex committed against my child and enforce the law. She chose to kiss off serious felonies thereby placing my child at additional risk. Had she arrested my ex, my child would have been spared suffering at least four more counts of felony child abuse.
Keep in my that I was a witness, my child told Burroughs that she was afraid of her mommy because she hits her with a belt, and my ex did not deny the content of my journal recordings, which were evidence. There was far more than sufficient probable cause to arrest my ex for child abuse.
I am not sure of your knowledge of criminality, but when one desires to commit crime, unless another is present 24/7 to intervene, criminals will commit crimes. Burroughs’ job was to intervene in order to assure my child was protected. She was derelict of her responsibilities.
If California Penal Code Section 273d makes it a felony to inflict corporeal injury upon a child, and Burroughs was the investigating deputy, and amble probable cause to arrest existed to enforce the law, why would she have been derelict in performing her function of enforcing the law and protecting a completely innocent child?
Take care,
R
Lucy,
BTW, in my ex’s sworn declaration, she did write that Jane had been arrested for child endangerment. My ex told me that after Jane was released from custody, she called her and apologized for causing the circumstances that resulted in Jane losing her son for four months. Also, I have a letter from Jane in which she wrote that deputies took her into custody.
Jane told me that she was represented by a public defender who had arranged for her to escape prosecution if she agreed to CPS’s terms and conditions. Jane had insisted to her public defender that she had committed no crime. Finally the public defender agreed with her; however, CPS had accused her of being a negligent mother, which she probably was.
I have never read the deputy’s report, nor have I ever tried to access it. At that time I had no interest in my ex’s relationship with Jane except for the fact that I had tried to keep my kids away from her. During the times my ex had custody of my daughter, I was without legal ability to prevent my ex from allowing Jane around my daughter.
As I have exposed in this thread, my ex had -probably still has- inveterate propensity for associating with drug abusers.
After we had separated, I had read “Stop Walking on Eggshells”, which explains borderline personality disorder. It was only then that I realized that my ex suffers from an extremely serious behavioral abnormality.
Take care,
R
imaginethat,
During the initial stages of my divorce, my brother was dating a family law lawyer. I believe she’s a bar Certified Family Law Specialist. I explained to her the circumstances as they had existed at that time. She was incredulous that my ex was able to escape arrest for felony child abuse.
Take care,
R
Anonymous,
You never allow an opportunity to slip through your fingers to expose yourself as derelict. Meet me in Wrightwood and I will introduce you to Jane’s sister and her stepfather. They’ll explain it to you. While they were once close to my ex, now they can’t stand her. My ex caused their family to suffer unbearable pain, including an excruciating four month separation from Jane’s son, because SBSO was inept in identifying the real suspect of a CPC 273a.
Anonymous, since you have admitted kissing off felonies, you probably were one of the deputies who made the false arrest of Jane.
Anonymous, the ball’s in your court. Get up here and you can talk to Jane’s sister and stepfather.
BTW, SBSO so screwed up its investigation of a serial child abuser, that I begged a lieutenant of my former agency to conduct an investigation of lies spread about me. Since I hold retirement credentials from that agency, it would not want me to carry a weapon under its authority if I were half as bad as Roberts alleged. This lieutenant went out of his way to try to help me, but the agency’s lawyers opined that it would present a conflict. The lieutenant, who personally knows me, didn’t believe Roberts’ BS, and he told me that SBSO was known for ineptitude.
My former agency has helped me as much as it could. After my ex won complete custody of my abused daughter, she applied for a now-sword position there. I talked to her background investigator. She asked if I had any knowledge of my ex’s current drug abuse. I didn’t. She told me that during a then recent personal interview of my ex, she had demonstrated symptoms consistent with recent drug abuse.
Not only do I still have credentials from my former agency, I have since have renewed my HR 218 card.
So, Deputy Derelict, get up here and talk to Jane’s sister and her stepfather.
Deputy Derelict, were push to come to shove, I’d guess that you’re prone to lying. Try to catch me in a single one.
Care to ‘slain, Deputy Derelict, why your agency is so inept?
R
My ex had told me after she left Roberts’ office on the date of our last meeting that she would be unable to complete her evaluation because I was uncooperative. The lie here was that I was never uncooperative. She terminated the meeting because she was a bully. She actually believed she could get me to acquiesce to her bullying tactics of forcing me to take responsibility for acts that never occurred. The fact that my son’s absences were not cleared was my ex’s fault, not mine. And he was never truant. But facts didn’t fit her agenda, so she had to make them up.
Our original trial date was July 12, 2010. When court convened, Proulx announced that we had to delay trial because Roberts hadn’t finished her report. She had three plus moths to finish a report that could have been completed in one, and she was unable to pull it off. Proulx said that we had to reschedule for July 22, 2010.
On the afternoon of July 12, 2010, at exactly 5:00 O’clock, I tore another rotator cuff muscle. I could actually feel it tearing. The pain was immediate and intense. I had an MRI a few days later that confirmed a serious injury. I was scheduled for my seventh orthopedic surgery in August.
Early in the afternoon of July 21, 2010, my ex called me. She told me that Roberts had just completed the report she had said she wouldn’t be able to complete. Roberts told my ex and me that the reason for the delay was that she was waiting on a report from Orange County that she had just received, which I later learned was a lie. Roberts lies with alacrity causing me to suspect that the compulsivity of her lies is symptomatic of mental illness.
By law, Roberts’ report was to have been completed 10 days prior to trial. On July 12, 2010, Proulx told my ex and me that time was of the essence because our kids were scheduled to begin school soon. He said he wanted to start the trial as soon as possible. He pushed for us to agree with his date of July 22. He asked me if I was willing to waive the ten day rule that required Roberts’ submitting her report ten days’ prior to trial. Like a fool, I agreed. I had no idea to that which I had agreed. Like a fool, I had actually believed justice was a function of family law.
During mid-afternoon of July 21, 2010, Roberts told me she was going to file her report and email a copy to me. I waited until 5:20 pm to receive her emailed copy of her report. It wasn’t until after trial did a friend of mine who is a lawyer tell me that Roberts’ scheme of intentionally delaying her report until the last possible minute is a tactic known as setting up a pro per litigant. Roberts waited until far longer than necessary to get her report to me because she did not want to have time to find a lawyer to read it and advise me. I received the report less than 17 hours prior to my trial. The only reason she set me up was because she lied.
Roberts had told me months earlier that she did not want her report to be a he-said-she said report. Her entire report was he-said-she-said that was fraught with easily provable lies. Keeping in mind that I had torn a shoulder muscle eleven days earlier that would require open surgery to repair –I had surgery in August 2010- I was in chronic and excruciating pain. I rarely slept due to pain.
While I read Roberts’ report I thought to myself, “What moron is going to believe this shit?” I should have never underestimated the predictability of stupidity. Proulx was such a moron. Worse, I had been forewarned that he wasn’t that bright. I was even less bright for not adhering to that sage advice.
The crucifixion crucible will follow.
R
R -
With all of your education and knowledge you still missed the point you moron. It was and is your duty to protect you child. If the SBSO did not protect her, you should have. Were you being help captive? Could you not have left with your child to protect her? Oh wait, I know there is another dang excuse or it was someone else’s fault you could not leave and protect your child.
As far as my knowledge of criminality it really is irrelevant here. Common sense tells me that if I feel I am in danger, and I am not being held captive, it is up to me to remove my self from the danger….. who needs a dang law degree for that?
You have nothing but excuses.
imaginethat,
You don’t have a point.
Tell me just exactly how think I should have protected my child? Are you implying that I should have resorted to violence? Tell me what you would have done?
Maybe you might have missed the part where I called a friend of mine who’s a lawyer, and we discussed my child’s and my predicament at great length. He told me that should my ex’s sister refuse to help my ex then I was left with no other option other than calling SBSO.
Burroughs (now VV Cheeseman) is the quintessential SBSO derelict deputy whose first response is to kiss off felonies. If she had two thoughts at once she’d become concussed. Her job was to protect my child. Instead, she became an accessory to child abuse and she aided and abetted at least four more counts of child abuse.
If you have yet to deduce, I hold great contempt for morons representing SBSO in tan and green who not only are incompetent, derelict, sans critical thinking skills, and can’t predict the consequences of their ineptitude, yet they think they’re bright. But for SBSO, these morons could never be n law enforcement. God knows, they routinely engage in orgies of incompetence on this blog. They have no idea of criteria of a good cop, so they make up their own.
It’s no wonder SBSO administration is going 10-8 on them. They should have never been hired in the first place. Instead of conducting realistic assessments of their abilities or lack thereof, they delude themselves into believing that there is no way they’re causal of their problems. Therefore, they conclude that they’re objects of SBSO jacket building because of corruption.
There are posters here who’re held in high esteem by lackeys who just don’t have it goin’ on.
Maybe if SBSO’s administration can terminate its numerous derelicts, it might be able to gain credibility within the law enforcement community. And it can begin derelict termination by hunting for them on this blog. Imagine that: hunters being hunted by their administration.
R
Even though Dr. Kristina Lynne Roberts has a Ph.D. that she bought from an online outfit that’s not accredited by the American Psychological Association and had violated CPC 115, Knowingly Filing False Documents with a Court, which is a felony, I was confident I was going to win. My ex has physically and verbally abused my child, she has physically and verbally abused me, she had run out on her kids some 18 months prior, so I foolishly believed that there would be no way I could lose. I was a stupid fool. There is a reason why the best liar wins in family law. That put me at a grave disadvantage because I did not lie. In fact, I challenge anyone to try to catch me in a singe lie.
Roberts wrote in her report that my ex mother-in-law heard from an unknown source that I was fired from my job as teacher because I was a prescription drug addict. Roberts knew this was a lie. She had copies of emails between my former deputy superintendent and me, the gist of which was I had voluntarily retired due to medical necessity. Months earlier I had given Proulx copies of the same emails so, unless he is really stupid, he had to know an allegation of my being fired for being a prescription drug addict was a lie. And if these facts had fallen short of meeting the threshold of proving it was a lie, I had clear and convincing proof.
For those of you who have been blessed by having no knowledge of drug addicts, they rarely have drugs because as soon as they score they use. Therefore, they’re constantly in search of drugs to feed their habits. I brought into Proulx’s courtroom at least 500 prescription narcotic pain meds, many of which were years old. Since addicts rarely have drugs because they use them as soon as they score, I asked Proulx how it could be possible that I was a prescription drug addict if, even while then awaiting my seventh extremely painful surgery, I rarely took them. Proulx had no answer for that question. He didn’t even acknowledge that Roberts had blatantly lied by alleging I was a prescription drug addict.
I have had six pins hammered into the skeletal structure of my left shoulder. To write that I was then and remain to this day in chronic pain is an understatement. The fact is my physician has told me more than once that I should be taking narcotic pain meds more often. I usually resort to them only when the pain becomes excruciating. She said the idea is use narcotic pain meds in order to prevent pain from becoming excruciating. However, there is no free ride with prescription meds. Narcotic pain meds prevent me from sleeping, and they screw up my digestive system. In short, the meds can be worse than the pain. Therefore, I rarely take them.
Another lie that Roberts included in her he-said-she-said report was that my ex sister-in-law had told her that I have used Demerol. I have never been prescribed Demerol. I have never, ever taken it. But facts were inconsequential to Roberts if they did not mesh with her agenda.
I had expected my ex’s mother and sister to lie for her. Obviously Roberts encouraged them to lie because she never once asked me about the veracity of their statements. Roberts’ blatant negligence facilitated her sinister agenda. In short, she lied and she needed liars in order for her scheme to work.
Roberts did write in her report that I am non-violent, which I am. In fact, my ex has never, ever alleged that I have ever physically abused her. Even though my ex has physically battered me three times, I have never touched her, not even in self-defense. Real men do not hit women. Keeping in mind that facts were inconsequential to Roberts, she opined that I should be ordered to complete a batter’s course because, according to Roberts, I used to start arguments with my ex. The fact is my ex has an extremely caustic personality. I used to go out of my way to avoid her because of her alacrity for calling me vile names, even in front of our kids. She is incapable of civil conversation. She used to routinely start arguments with me. She and her deceased best friend used to argue all the time and call each other the “F” word.
A prominent Newport Beach psychiatrist who critiqued Roberts report after my trial wrote the following, which is verbatim, in a letter addressed to Proulx: “On p. 33 Dr. Roberts decisively takes [my ex’s] side in the chronic conflict between [my ex] and [me]. ‘Over long periods of time, [I] has created conflict and then turned it around to be [my ex’s] fault.’ It is difficult to imagine how such a claim could be substantiated. I suspect Dr. Roberts is extrapolating from her own interactions with [me], which is an illegitimate inference.”
Roberts did seize opportunity to include in her novel Burroughs’ (VV Cheeseman) disgusting lie that I had coached my child to lie. Make no mistake, if I had coached my child to lie, I would have deserved to lose her.
The most repulsive lie that Roberts wrote in her report was concocted to facilitate her scheme of having my daughter taken away from me. It worked. She wrote that my daughter is an extension of my ego. Roberts talked with my daughter for maybe five minutes. An actual child psychologist who had previously examined my daughter -while she was living with me- during a treatment program that included at least twelve hours of therapy never even remotely indicated such a conclusion. Moreover, I initiated the psychological treatment that my daughter received.
The aforementioned psychiatrist included in his same letter to Proulx the following, which is verbatim: “Again, on p. 36, Dr. Roberts opines that [my daughter] appears to be an extension of [my] own ego. This superficial psychologizing goes way beyond the data presented. I certainly cannot confirm it and it would take months of depth psychotherapy to warrant such an interpretation. The over-interpretation of [me] based on scant evidence reaches a crescendo in the last paragraph on p. 38, where he is labeled with narcissistic entitlement and lack of respect for authority. There is no justification for such an opinion.”
The next most repulsive lies Roberts’ wrote in her report were that I was incapable of putting my children’s interests above mine and that I usually use my daughter to further my interests. The same psychiatrist in the same letter to Proulx wrote the following, which is verbatim, of Roberts’ lies: “On p. 31 Dr. Roberts states that [I] ‘appears incapable’ of putting his children’s interests before his own and that ‘he actually uses [my daughter] to further his own interests’ and is ‘incapable’ of doing otherwise. I do not find any basis for this sweeping judgment and nothing I have learned about him from my own contact would support this. [I] may assert himself too much at times but he is not notably self-interested. To the contrary, he feels very protective of his daughter and strongly asserts himself in (what he perceives to be) her behalf. A need to be in control is not tantamount to narcissism but is based in anxiety, in particular anxiety about the welfare of his daughter.”
I should have never have underestimated the predictability of Proulx’s stupidity. However, he was the one who recommended Roberts to perform the child custody evaluation, so he had motivation to protect her unethical, unprofessional, and negligent report. Roberts’ did not interview my daughter about the physical and emotional abuse she suffered. When I later told the aforementioned psychiatrist about Roberts’ neglect to interview my daughter about the abuse she has suffered, he stared at me in silent disbelief for about fifteen seconds. Moreover, there was not a word in Roberts’ report about the three times my ex had physically battered me.
In his letter to Proulx, the aforementioned psychiatrist politely called Roberts a lying, incompetent, moron. Were one so inclined, one can access Roberts’ divorce records at Victorville court. Her former husband has submitted a declaration that he signed under penalty of perjury in which he, in essence, referred to her a manipulative liar. Another psychologist critiqued Roberts’ report and opined that she obviously hates men. Roberts has been married at least three times, possibly more. It’s obvious that she has difficulty getting along with men.
At the conclusion of Proulx’s kangaroo trail, he awarded the abuser one hundred percent legal and physical custody of her victim in spite of the fact that my ex had virtually abandoned her eighteen months earlier. Awarding the abuser my abused child would be like Lance Ito awarding OJ a knife. It was entirely predictable that my ex was going to continue to abuse her.
Roberts recommended that I be allowed only monitored visits with my daughter. It is one hundred percent factual that no one has ever alleged that I have ever abused my child in any manner. Roberts’ is a bully who hates men. Her agenda was to bully me, and she did not care that she would also punish my daughter in order to effectuate her diabolical agenda.
Initially my ex disagreed with monitored visitation because she knew it would harm my daughter. Proulx agreed. However, both would later commit to intentionally harming my daughter because they were forced to in order to protect themselves.
Proulx asked my ex if she wanted me to attend a batter’s course. That was like Lance Ito asking OJ if he would give up his Fifth Amendment double jeopardy right. My ex told Proulx that I should be ordered to attend a batter’s course. He ordered me to attend one. In disbelief, I asked that moron something to the effect, “You mean that I have to attend a batter’s course when I have never battered anyone. However, my ex has physically and verbally battered my daughter and me, yet she does not have to attend a batter’s course?” He replied with a sh*t eating grin, “Yes, that’s right.” Proulx tacitly acknowledged that my ex had in fact battered my daughter and me, which my ex hadn’t denied, yet he shielded her criminality and immunized her from liability.
I stand behind every single word I have written.
The predictable consequences of Proulx’s awarding a serial child abuser her victim will follow.
R
I was left in complete despair after having lost my child to her abuser. I had my seventh orthopedic surgery in August of 2010. It was a serious, open surgery as opposed to arthroscopic. I was scheduled to remain hospitalized at least overnight. However, I whined and begged to be discharged after surgery. My surgeon did allow me to leave that night.
One of my closest friends is a practicing attorney. He has been a lawyer for over thirty years. We have been friends for about thirty-five years. After he read Roberts’ report he told me that she must have hated me. I think she hates men in general. My friend told me that regardless of her obvious prejudices, she breached ethical and professional standards of conduct.
In early October of 2010, I ran across Jane, my ex’s former best friend. She told me that she thought she was going to hate me because of lies my ex told her about me. She told me that I was nothing like my ex described. She told me that she was surprised to find that I was actually a nice guy.
I asked Jane why she never attempted to have my ex arrested and prosecuted for endangering her son. She told me that she is by nature not vindictive. She told me that she was then concentrating with abiding by CPS’s requirements so that she could be reunited with her son. After they were reunited, she wanted to put that episode of her life behind her.
I complimented Jane for changing her life. She stopped using all drugs. She has focused her life on becoming a good parent to her child.
Jane told me about my ex’s torturing my daughter. She said she witnessed it on two occasions. She said her son had also witnessed the torture. That was when I learned for the first time that my ex had tortured my child. Jane has submitted three declarations -all of which were signed under penalty of perjury- that she witnessed my ex torture my child.
Jane told me that she never witnessed my ex using meth, but my ex did admit to Jane that her truck driving former boyfriend was a meth addict. Jane also told me that her friend witnessed my ex under the influence of meth. Jane put me in contact with her friend. He told me that he used to be a long time meth addict. He stopped using many years ago. He told me that he was well aware of symptoms of being under the influence of meth. He told me that he witnessed my ex under the influence of meth. He signed a declaration under penalty of perjury attesting he witnessed my ex under the influence of meth.
During my then infrequent visits with my daughter, she told me that her mother was continuing to abuse her. On one occasion my ex punched her and on another occasion my ex dug her dug and twisted her fingernails into the skin of my daughter’s leg and arm.
My anxiety caused by fear about the health and welfare of my daughter grew exponentially. Proulx’s job was supposed to be to protect my daughter. Instead he endangered her.
As a concerned parent I did what any concerned parent would do. In mid October of 2010, I filed a motion with Proulx to have my daughter protected from her abuser. That is what I was supposed to do, bring proof of child abuse to the court’s attention. However, such facts placed Proulx in an extremely compromising position and potentially job-threatening bind. Either he would be forced to admit that he willingly placed an abused child with her abuser thereby causing her to suffer additional abuse, or he could protect himself. There was a reason why Thomas Jefferson did not trust judges, and Proulx personifies that reason.
On the October date during which my motion to protect my daughter was to be heard, Proulx was absent. I can only speculate about the cause of his absence. A woman whom I believe was Glickstein filled in for him. I believe she’s an attorney practicing in the Victorville area. My ex admitted to her and on record to committing all requisite elements of child endangerment. When I told her that my ex had just admitted to a felony, she appeared to have been baffled. When she regained lucidity, she told me that I didn’t know what I was talking about. Glickstein decided to postpone the hearing until Proulx returned since he was familiar with our case. The order was scheduled to be heard on November 17, 2010.
My ex knew in October that I learned of the torture she committed upon my daughter in 2008. In November of 2010 she submitted a responsive declaration that she signed under penalty of perjury. Her responsive declaration was remarkable for many reasons, primarily because she never denied torturing my daughter. Considering the reasonable man standard, were a reasonable person accused of a serious crime that s/he did not commit, it would be reasonable to expect her/him to deny it. In that same declaration she once again admitted to committing all requisite elements of child endangerment. And she also admitted to continuing to place my daughter in danger. My daughter and she got into an argument while they were in my ex’s moving vehicle. My daughter became so distraught that she threatened to jump out of my ex’s moving car. Consistent with my ex’s delusional behavior, she blamed me for my daughter’s emotional distress, yet I was 130 miles away when it occurred.
On October 30, 2010, an extremely squared away deputy responded to my home to interview my daughter about the abuse she has suffered. He interviewed her in private. My daughter told him about the times her mommy had beaten her with a belt, which were the crimes Deputy Burroughs (VVCheeseman) wrote in her report were coached lies. My daughter told him about the two occasions in which her mommy yanked her off the floor by her hair. And she also told her of the abuse she has suffered since Proulx awarded the abuser with her victim. And there was another count of child abuse my daughter revealed of which I was unaware. The deputy told me that my daughter was obviously traumatized by the abuse my ex inflicted upon her.
In early November of 2010 I brought Roberts’ report to a prominent Newport Beach psychiatrist for critique. He’s thoroughly familiar with child custody evaluations and an expert witness. I told him that Roberts was a liar. He got in my face and told me that if I insisted Roberts was a liar, he wouldn’t be able to help me. He asked me if my ex was a good liar. I told him that she’s the best there is. He told me that my ex’s symptoms were consistent with borderline personality disorder, and that my ex had duped Roberts. The psychiatrist agreed to review my report and write a letter to Proulx.
During a series of emails between the psychiatrist and me, I continued to refer to Roberts as a liar. Finally he asked me to explain why I thought Roberts had lied. After I explained the basis for my concluding Roberts was a liar he wrote to me, “I hear you, but I still think the judge will assume, as I did, the examiner is not lying and your attacking her only gives her credibility because she predicted you would. As I hear more from you about this I realize how clever her report is. Sometimes one has to let the truth go and fight for what is achievable.”
I have retained copies of the emails between the psychiatrist and me for review.
The psychiatrist’s initial letter to Proulx was tepid. Once he realized Roberts had in fact lied, he revised his letter and was more aggressive in attacking her.
I had the psychiatrist’s letter and copies of our email ready to go for November 17, 2010. I had two witnesses who saw my daughter tortured by my ex, my daughter admitted to a deputy that her mother had tortured her and that she had suffered additional abuse since Proulx gave her to her abuser, I had a witness who saw my ex under the influence of meth, and probably as important I had my ex’s responsive declaration in which she did not deny torturing my daughter. Were anyone to accuse me of a crime I did not commit, especially torturing a child, my denial would be heard in China.
These facts put Proulx in quite a bind. The questions were whether he had honor and character to admit that the woman he recommended to perform the child custody evaluation lied to him, that he had awarded a serial child abuser her victim, and that he therefore aided and abetted two counts of child abuse resulting from my ex’s abuse of my daughter after he forced the victim to live with her abuser; or, whether he would attempt to conceal his bad actions in effort to protect his incompetence.
Proulx opened the hearing quoting lies about me from Roberts’ report. In fact, everything that spewed from that man’s mouth for about the first fifteen minutes were lies. He was without honor and character to admit that he had forced a confused child into the custody of her abuser. However, when I demanded that my ex admit that it was a repulsive lie that I had coached my daughter to lie, a fleeting thought of competence visited Proulx. He though aloud that maybe Roberts’ report required a review. But like a fleeting zephyr over the desert, Proulx’s flirtation with competence disappeared.
Proulx should have encouraged me to bring these facts to his attention. But because these facts could have placed him in jeopardy of having to find another line of work, he chose to attempt to dissuade and intimidate me. He initiated a civil action of having me labeled a vexatious litigant. He could not risk additional facts that would expose his incompetence.
Proulx revealed his lack of honor and character by acquiescing to my ex’s request to require monitored visitation. Like Proulx, she could not risk my daughter exposing facts about her abusive behavior to me. On July 22, 2010, my ex told Proulx that monitored visitation would harm my child. Proulx had agreed. However, four months later Proulx and my ex were willing to place my daughter in danger of additional psychological harm by enforcing monitored visitation. And that’s precisely what Proulx did.
I have since had to hire a lawyer. He told me I would have never, ever had lost if I had had a lawyer on July 22, 2010. Roberts knew this as well, which was why she set me up. I have since spent about twenty thousand dollars trying to undo the extreme injustice and grave harm Proulx perpetrated upon my daughter and me. We return to court later this month. While much of the horrendous damage Proulx has caused my daughter and me to suffer cannot be reversed, I am praying that he will find honor and character sufficient to admit that he made a horrible mistake and attempt to repair damage that can be mitigated.
Proulx must conduct a self-assessment of his personality in order to locate the flaw that conveys to others that he will reward liars. Until then, he is incapable out meting out justice. Moreover, he is a danger to children and, by definition, he is a child abuser because he aided and abetted at least two counts of it.
Corruption is thriving in at least one Victorville family law courtroom.
It is obvious why I become extremely frustrated with SBSO deputies who have revealed their incompetence dereliction of duty on this blog. Out of all SBSO deputies whom I have contacted for help, I found only one whom I know for sure was squared away. But for the fact that SBSO dereliction was a direct cause of my child being forced to endure abuse that should have escaped her, I would have cared less about SBSO. However, when one’s child is harmed due to gross dereliction of duty of those who are supposed to protect her, it is reasonable to infer intense resentment will ensue. Had Burroughs not been derelict, none of the abuse my child was forced to endure after I sought her help would have occurred. Am I supposed to be happy with SBSO?
I stand behind every last word I have written.
R
we are dealing with Dr Roberts and feel that there are many conflicts of interest with her and her staff. Would very much like to talk with you !!!
This so- called Justice system is messed up. We have had Deputy’s and Detectives make mistakes, mistyped reports. CPS was involved then dropped the ball more than several times over a 3 year period. It’s strange to us that people who abuse children in a most horrific manner can get away with it. Now the DA’s office has dropped the ball for lack of physical evidence. We are talking about toddlers being sexually abused, neglected, physically abused and emotionally abused.After many reports the police pulled these small innocent children from their abusers, they are in therapy and have been for over a year and still suffer from panic and anxiety. Dr Roberts came into play when the court ordered a 730 done. Dr Roberts office made these children see their abuser after being told by children’s therapist that it was not in the best interest of the children. Supposedly they could not do the complete evaluation without that happening.It did re traumatize these children. So now we await the reports and pray for a good outcome.
Raisuli, your story brought tears to my eyes. I have been searching for the past three years to find someone, anyone who has experienced the devastation of that womans lies. I knew it but to find someone else to confirm it is a godsend. I do not think she has anything against men, I think she goes where she sees the most profit. I to am still fighting to save my children from the torment she has put them in. I do have some information that may be able to help, however I need to find as many people as possible that have experienced this with her, as there is strength in numbers. As you know trying to take on an evaluator or commissioner/judge as a single person is very dangerous as I have read they will destroy that person and their lives to save their own a**. Please contact me as soon as possible. Betsy, I hope for the best in your case, but if she does the same thing to you please contact me as well. @ reneeyc23@hotmail.com
We need as many people who have gone through this office and has had the same problems. This type of injustice has got to be stopped !!!! Help us to help others before more lives are ruined as a result !!
5 working days before court and still no report from Dr Roberts office. Still have to meet with attorney before court and still getting the run around. Do they do this on purpose or what? Gave us two different dates that the report was supposed to be completed.
Sounds just how mine went, kept getting told it would be done by this date or that date and wasn’t until just a day before court, so there really wasn’t time to go through it and be able to fight it. I have read this is a common tactic by evaluators. I hope everything turns out good for you and the children. Keep us posted.
Renee,talked with lawyer, we are going to try to get a continuance. The lawyer will never have the time to go through everything, plus meet with her before Tuesday. I keep thinking that they are doing this on purpose. The other party involved has skipped state. To me that should be open and shut. She left without any forwarding address and the evaluators said for all they knew she was still in CA. We had to take proof that she had left the state, she even asked for a telephone appearance. What more did they need? It’s all head games with these people. After this is all said and done we are going to try to file charges. Even the lawyer said they have to have the reports within 10 days of court date which has been violated. I tried to call Dr Roberts office and got the answering machine. My son called 2 days ago and they were vague as to when the report would be finished or if it was finished. Thanks Renee !!!I pray your situation is going well !!
Guess what? still no report !!! does that surprise anyone and court is tomorrow !!! Can we say another delay? I swear they do this on purpose !!!!
still no report and another continuance. They are saying another 2 -3 weeks before report ready. Court again , end of Nov. This has been going on forever. You would think child safety would come first and what’s in the best interest of children. Should be open and shut !!!
Proulx, the domestic terrorist, who is a child abusing liar, has been taken off this case. This is significant because he fought like hell to conceal his criminality and malfeasance. Proulx’s criminality and malfeasance is the direct cause of a confused and serially abused child to have suffered additional abuse. His job was to protect her. He actually harmed her. Proulx is a lying dirt bag child abuser. He knows who I am. He knows that I know that he received an SBSO promotion. Someone owed him a favor resulting in his assuming a position from which he has become a danger to children. There is vast disparity between his abject lack of ability and his pay grade.
If Proulxster had honor and character he’d quit before he places more children in harm. He’ll prove his lack of honor and character and the FACT that he’s a child abuser if he were to try to shift responsibility to Krissy Roberts, who’d die of a concussion were she to have two thoughts at once. The fact that Proulxster wasn’t bright enough to figure out that Krissy Robets is a liar -her own ex-husband has submitted a sworn declaration in which he’s called her a manipulative liar- is not a defense for CPC 31/273d, principal to child abuse, which makes the Proulxster a dirt bag child abuser. Kristina Lynne Roberts VV Family Law file is well worth the read. Keep in mind she’s bought a degree from an online outfit that’s not accredited by the American Psychological Association. The short of it is she’s a fraud.
I’ll post on the progress of this travesty. The horrendous harm Proulxster has caused a serially abused and confused child to suffer cannot be repaired. About the best that can be hoped for is mitigated damages.
Oh here we go. Looks like Rasuli is back and crazier than ever. Coo-coo.
Gosh, are all these people crazy ? They are supposed to be professionals, but from the sounds of it they are the ones who need help. I did look up Kristine Roberts in the court, funny that now it looks like she has to do a 730.Since she knows all the in and outs, I feel justice will not be served for her x husband.I pray for everyone out there that has had to deal with the corruption of the justice system. Soon I will be making petitions to help children who suffer from abuse where nothing is done. The system is broken. I am going to do what needs to be done to protect children and give them a voice !!!
Hey James,
Can you give me a textbook definition of probable cause? Can you tell me when it’s acceptable to put an opinion in a police report.
Tell me, James, how statements are not evidence.
But for SBSO aggressively recruiting the inferior, you would have never gotten close to law enforcement. You’re a has been who never was. Had I trained you I’d of failed you.
I’ve heard that you’re prone to excessive imbibing. Once you have one firmly tied in place, you bang on your keyboard if effort to remove any doubt of your incompetence.
This should be easy for you: tell me about the last five felonies you kissed off due to your abject lack of competence.
Besty,
SBSO competence is a contradiction in terms,
Roberts is a liar. SBSO aids & abets felonies and is accessory to them, mostly due to incompetence. Hence, Roberts commits felonies with impunity.
A prominent Newport Beach psychiatrist who has an Ivy League education has concluded Roberts is a lying, incompetent moron. He wondered aloud how she was able to become licensed. She is good for aiding and abetting 3 counts of child abuse and knowingly filing false documents with a court, another felony. She bought an online degree from an outfit that’s not accredited by the American Psychological Association.
She is a fraud. She knows that I know she’s a fraud. But she has SBSO duped, which is no feat of ability.
back in OC please contact me, i am going thru the same shit u are with the same dr and judges , if anyone out there and wants to here whats ive been going thru please email at np090706@yahoo.com and i will email my number.
we need to protest in vv
I was thinking about protesting In Victorville, probably soon. I am starting petitions as well. The 730 evaluators are just messed up. We have been waiting for report forever.Had to have like 4 continuances due to report not being ready and kids still in limbo, because of the bds at that doctors office. They made the choice to traumatize my grandchildren because of ignorance on their part. If anyone intersted in protest let me know !!
jhon
your email was not working. I tried twice and it said failure.
@Betsy……Let me know if and how I can help with the petitions.
Onlyanurse here is my email I would love the help. lisadarlin2003@yahoo.com I can give you my phone number we we email. Anyone else that is interested can email me as well. Only after I get petitions done I will be planning the protest. I am also in process of creating a website about what happened to my grandchildren as far as the system goes, the mishandling of their case as well as information to help others. If we all stand together we can make a difference !!!
thanks betsy will be contacting you
I need some help. The D.A.’s office did a pitchess motion after they(D.A.’s Office) received an email from unknown officer(s) that Deputy Hardin needed his personnel file checked and referred to the case Im currently working on for the defense. Any scoop, positive or not, would be apprecitated. This is above typical discovery as I believe in iepolitics.
Please anyone who has had contact with Dr Roberts office and CPS and had problems please make contact ASAP. It is for the children !! We need as many people as we can get !!!
Ok, reports in from Dr Roberts office, meeting with attorneys didn’t go well. Reports now can not be released until next court date at which time Judge will get them as well. That will be our first time seeing them and at that time we have to have retained another attorney due to financial reasons. Dr Roberts office said the contents of the report can not be released and are basically sealed. Who the hell is she anyway?
Now we have to get another attorney, because our understanding is that this is not going to be solved anytime soon. It has been nothing but problems with her office !!! This has got to be stopped . I wrote a letter to the Board of Psychology today and filed a complaint. Screw this system that doesn’t help the victims of crime, they are more interested in protecting the guilty.
Welcome to the system
besty its me kim jhon roomate, seen dan last night he was pissed, i will give you a call as soon as i get unbusy from my work.